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Thursday, April 29, 2004

Chatting Pet Peeves & Venting
Is it just me, or is it the lamest thing when someone chats with you online and starts asking you questions as though they know who you are under the guise of a generic screenname... like when they call you by first name and say "How was X and Y the other night?" and then they won't tell you who they are or how they know you?

Or how about someone who asks you all kinds of questions about what you do for a living... and then when you ask "And how about you?", they respond with "I'd rather not say." My response? "Cool, then I'd rather not chat with you." If you're THAT closeted or THAT sketchy you are probably not someone I would enjoy chatting with.

Of course I get people who say hi to me because of reading my blog... And I love conversations with those people. They tend to be very genuine and when I ask how they found me or how they know X and Y, they say, "I read your blog." And then I go, "Oh, OK. Cool!" and move into a real give-and-take, open conversation. I've made some great friends and acquaintances through my blog.

But whether they mean it or not, some people just come across as sketchy. If I say, "Who are you?" or "How did you know about that?" and you respond by saying, "it's a small town" or "I'm a friend of a friend" I'm probably just going to say something mean and go for the "X" on the chat window.

Can there be any other reason to play the I-know-more-about-you-than-you-know-about-me BS besides enjoying playing head games and getting a kick out of irritating people? Seriously. I suppose its one of the negatives that comes with chatting online... when people can be as anonymous as they want to be.

But can't we hope for something better from people?
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